LIVE BY DESIGN | The power of happy spaces: Cultivating joy in a busy world

“These days are long but years are short.” – Gretchen Rubin

This week, I experienced a lightbulb moment. Despite the familiar chaos of Johannesburg traffic that greets me every morning and night, I realised I am generally in a happy space. As the hours merge into a stop-and-go routine, frustration can easily build. But the moment I step into the office, all my troubles fade away. I find myself surrounded by a group of individuals who are not solely driven by personal ambitions but who genuinely believe in the potential and promise of our country.

I, like many South Africans, juggle worries about financial stability, relationships, safety, and the weight of daily life challenges. These concerns are real and deserve attention; acknowledging them is crucial for our growth. However, amid these worries, I also recognise the importance of my happy spaces—those moments and environments that uplift my spirit and remind me of the joy life can offer.

In the book The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin explores the concept happiness and how we can actively cultivate it in our lives.

“These days are long but years are short,” says Rubin, and as Ngunis like to say: “Angifuni ukungasho I’m happy (I do not want to say I’m happy).”

The reality of life’s challenges

It’s easy to get caught up in the negative. With headlines often dominated by stories of hardship, violence, and despair, it feels almost inappropriate to speak of happiness.

I hesitated to write this piece, fearful that it might come across as tone-deaf amid the struggles that so many face. Yet, I discovered that recognising our happy moments does not diminish the reality of others’ suffering. Instead, it serves as a reminder that even in difficult times, joy can coexist with pain.

When we acknowledge our happy spaces, we create a counterbalance to life’s stressors. It isn’t about ignoring struggles. Rather, it’s about finding a foothold of contentment from which we can navigate our challenges more effectively. This acknowledgment can serve as a lifeline, allowing us to recharge emotionally and mentally.

The value of happy spaces

Happy spaces are not just physical locations. They encompass experiences, relationships, and feelings that bring us joy. They can be found in the laughter shared with friends, the warmth of family gatherings, or the solace of nature.

For me, entering the office transforms my mindset. It’s a place where collaboration thrives, ideas flourish, and camaraderie is palpable. Each day, I’m reminded that I am part of a community striving for collective success, rather than a solitary pursuit.

When we work alongside people who resonate with our vision—a vision for a better future—our spirits are lifted. Every interaction becomes a reminder that while individual challenges may persist, we are not alone in our journey.

The ripple effect of happiness

But what happens if we collectively acknowledge these moments of happiness? When we talk about our happy spaces, we inspire others to reflect on their own sources of joy. Sharing these experiences can cultivate a culture of gratitude and appreciation, encouraging more individuals to seek out and cherish their happy moments, regardless of the circumstances surrounding them.

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Instead of becoming consumed by problems, we learn to appreciate the beauty in our lives. Gratitude has a powerful ripple effect; when we express it, we not only boost our moods but also influence those around us.

In a city bustling with energy and activity, such as Johannesburg, it’s easy to overlook the pockets of happiness embedded within our daily lives. But if we practise mindfulness, we can train ourselves to seek out and appreciate these moments. Whether indulging in a delicious meal, enjoying a beautiful sunset, or engaging in a heartwarming conversation, these simple joys can be powerful.

Embracing contentment does not imply complacency; rather, it signifies acceptance of our current state while remaining open to growth and improvement.