LIVE BY DESIGN | Balancing power and empathy: Trump-inspired leadership insights

There are countless jokes about the so-called “breadwinners” in our families—the aunties and uncles who hold the keys to the cooler fridge during family events or those commanding figures whose presence looms large in our lives. We often whisper about their exercise of power, aware that voicing our dissent too loudly could lead to dire consequences.

Enter Donald Trump, the president of the United States, who fuels controversy. This past week, he has been soliciting other leaders to kiss his ring while showing the finger to others. He and his executive team have given orders, apparently without consultation, to close down USAID programmes and exit the World Health Organisation. Palestinians, he proclaimed, should live in neighbouring states, not Gaza. The “wrecking ball” are the words I am hearing, that describe Trump’s leadership style.

Suddenly, we find ourselves with a vivid name to associate with some of our breadwinners or even our bosses. Trump’s unique blend of bravado and divisiveness evokes both admiration and disdain, prompting us to question the nature of authority and leadership within our own circles. What can we learn from his approach, and how does it reflect on the figures we encounter daily, those enigmatic leaders shaping our families and workplaces?

As journalists, political analysts, and everyday citizens dissect his approach, they raise essential questions about what it means to be a leader in today’s multifaceted environment. Are you the “Trump” in your family, workplace, or even place of worship?

Take a moment to reflect on your “cabinet”—does it genuinely align with what is best for your family or organisation, or does it primarily serve your interests and those of a select few? It is worth considering whether what you believe is best truly benefits the whole or merely caters to your favourites.

Are you aware that you might not be treating your staff, family, or congregation equitably? What happens when you prioritise one segment of society over others? This imbalance can lead to a ripple effect of discontent, undermining unity and collaboration.

Trump’s leadership is characterised by its unconventional nature—marked by a mix of bravado, directness, and a penchant for breaking norms. Supporters often admired his decisiveness and ability to articulate a vision that resonated with many Americans who felt overlooked by traditional politicians.

Detractors criticised his lack of empathy, reliance on social media as his primary communication tool, and a tendency for divisive rhetoric. As we consider the attributes that define a good leader, Trump’s polarising presence has prompted many to evaluate their own styles in the context of family, work, and community.

Leadership in Family and Community

How do you lead in your family? Are you a pillar of support, or do you often find yourself at odds with your loved ones? Leading a family requires a unique blend of authority and compassion. It involves setting boundaries while fostering an environment where everyone feels heard. Reflecting on Trump’s approach, which often included bold proclamations and unwavering self-confidence, can provoke thoughts about how assertiveness might play a role in your family dynamics. Similarly, consider your role at work.

Are you a leader who inspires collaboration, or do you adopt a more top-down approach reminiscent of Trump’s own style? His business background undoubtedly shaped his leadership approach, often prioritising results over process. In the workplace, this might manifest as focusing on deliverables and outcomes rather than nurturing team dynamics.

Ask yourself: How do you keep your team engaged? Do you celebrate their achievements? As a leader, are you making space for diverse opinions or pushing your agenda without adequate input? Keeping Yourself in Check A critical element of effective leadership is self-awareness—understanding how your actions impact others. In the wake of Trump’s leadership, many have questioned their ability to remain self-reflective. Do you seek feedback from those around you? Do you have mechanisms to ensure your leadership does not become self-serving? Setting up regular check-ins—be it with trusted colleagues or family members—can help maintain accountability and provide you with a clearer picture of your impact. Reflecting on one’s leadership style also means recognising areas for growth. Are you willing to adjust your approach based on constructive criticism?

Leaders like Trump often present a facade of certainty, but true strength lies in adaptability and vulnerability. Embracing change and being open to learning can enhance your efficacy as a leader across all domains of your life.

Admiring Trump’s Leadership Qualities

For those who find admiration in Trump’s leadership style, it is important to clarify what specific traits resonate with you. Is it his unapologetic demeanour, his ability to command attention, or perhaps his focus on results? Recognising these qualities can help you identify aspects of your own leadership that you might want to embody while remaining mindful of the potential pitfalls associated with an unyielding approach.

There is a fine line between commendable confidence and detrimental arrogance. Defining where you draw this line is crucial for developing a balanced leadership style. It is easy to be drawn in by the allure of decisiveness and charisma, but maintaining humility and openness is essential for gaining lasting respect and trust. Closer to home, South Africa’s response to Trump’s controversial stances has brought president Cyril Ramaphosa’s leadership into the spotlight. Do we prefer to fight fire with fire, or is there value in a more measured approach?

Ramaphosa’s leadership during challenging times has been rooted in diplomacy and consensus-building, contrasting sharply with Trump’s often confrontational stance. In evaluating national leadership, consider how you reconcile your own actions with the challenges present in your community. Are you quick to react, or do you strive for understanding and resolution? Fire with fire may yield immediate satisfaction but can often deepen divisions. In contrast, promoting dialogue and cooperation may lead to more sustainable outcomes. Ultimately, the legacy of Trump’s leadership invites us all to engage deeply with who we want to be as leaders.